Updated: Aug 5, 2020
How to get lasting benefits from your affirmation practice
Here's the end of our message, right at the beginning: Don’t stop doing affirmations! Keep going! You ARE powerful!
(But please, keep reading anyway!)
Generally, there are two reasons why people do affirmations:
“Something bad happened to me. I decided to make a change. So I affirm what I want, and feel better afterwards.”
“I want something good to happen to me. So let me set up my mind in a good place. I’ll do affirmations, put some gas in my tank, and get started on my goals!”
These are both excellent uses of affirmations. But, what if we can offer a new and (dare I say) BETTER way to think about the function of the affirmation practice? We invite you challenge your understanding of affirmations -- of their uses, their power, and their effect.
AFFIRMATIONS CAN HAVE A LASTING EFFECT
In both examples above, the affirmation practice is a response to something: either you want to make something bad good, or something good better.
But these are a short-term. They get you through your day. They get you past a tough moment. You change how you feel, so you can move on. This instant gratification often leads people to complain that affirmations stop working for them — that they don’t feel their effect or power after a few days of practice.
But affirmations do have the ability to create real, lasting change for you and your life.
To understand this, let’s break down a common misconception about the power of affirmations:
AFFIRMATIONS ARE NOT FOR “YOU”
Many believe that you do affirmations for yourself — That if you shout “I am powerful!!” enough times, you actually start to feel powerful, and it will affect your work, your day, your relationship with others.
This is not NOT true…
..but the real, lasting effect of affirmations is not for your conscious consumption. They are not for you to bolster your ego. Or to make you feel superior.
They are a very powerful tool.
HOW AFFIRMATIONS ACTUALLY MAKE A DIFFERENCE
The real, lasting, long-term effect of affirmations occurs in your subconscious mind.
Your subconscious beliefs are the reason behind the things you have and the way you are.
A friend recently explained how she always seems to attract dogs — everywhere she goes, whenever she’s in a park, or at a friend’s house, dogs run to her and absolutely love her: even though she’s never owned a dog in her life.
So if you ever find yourself saying “I just seem to attract this or that” know that the reason for this exists in the subconscious mind.
So what's the connection? Your affirmations have a lasting effect on your subconscious -- that's the most important reason to do them.
Each time you do an affirmation, you plant a seed in your subconscious. That is the power of the subconscious mind.
So keep planting. Keep affirming.
HOW DO WE CHANGE OUR MINDSET?
Think of affirmations as a piggy bank — not a lottery ticket.
If you buy a lotto ticket, the hope is you will strike gold after a few tries. It’s exciting, and potentially life-changing... in an instant!
A piggy bank takes time, and is perhaps a little less than thrilling. But if you invest in that bank, and you do it consistently, you are SURE to reap the benefits from that energy.
Another way to think of this: You can’t decide one day to do 10 sit-ups and expect an instant six-pack. Similarly, don’t give up on your affirmations after a few days, just because you don’t feel it like you used it.
It’s a practice, not a magic pill.
Say them out loud. Write them down. Sneak them into every day conversation. But whatever you do: do not stop!
ONE LAST NOTE:
Have you ever consider perhaps there’s a reason why you think the affirmations don’t work anymore? Perhaps there’s a reason why the intense feeling of satisfaction and power start to “die down” after a few days?
Is it because you’re doing it wrong?
Or is it because you’re doing it right?
More on that, next time… :)